FUNDRAISER FIASCO: What You Can Learn from Real Housewives of Atlanta’s Saving Our Daughters Charity Event

Nene giving her infamous speech to supporters of Saving Our Daughters, while Kenya looks on.  Image Credit:

Nene giving her infamous speech to supporters of Saving Our Daughters, while Kenya looks on.
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Saving our Daughters is one charity on the lips of reality stars from “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” but not for the disturbing mashup of an “Eyes Wide Shut”-themed fundraiser Kenya Moore concocted, or her Black Swan on steroids face mask, it’s the ill-conceived planning on Kenya’s part in not notifying the guest of honor: Ms. Nene “Imma rich bitch” Leakes of the fundraiser.

Apparently e-vites and word of mouth mentions don’t make for an exclusive guest list. But they do create a scene where Rich Bitch Leakes saunters into the freaky deek fundraiser in a sleeveless liquid dress with a raging pout that would make Posh Spice envious. And a silver tongue to match to give the shortest passive-aggressive speech in history. So much for putting on a good face for charity, despite it being “one of many she supports.”

And the lesson here? well, there’s several:

  • If a fundraiser/party is in someone’s honor, the first invite or call should go to them.
  • Never throw away your receipts, they may come in handy when you least expect it.
  • Don’t let your emotions get the best of you; be clever enough to turn shade into shine for yourself.
  • Finally, don’t forget the charity’s purpose and influence over others.

IFYOUBL==KED: “In the House” actress Maia Campbell has joined the Saving Our Daughters charity this month. The actress hopes to share her experiences as an addict to help other young women recover.

Don’t you love a comeback story?

Lamar Odom & Khloe Kardashian’s Charity Scandal, Plus Other Celebrity Foundations Under Fire


Odom with Cathy’s Kids participants in 2005.

The first time I volunteered for God’s Love We Deliver, a charity devoted to feeding and delivering meals to infirm people, was in 2010. The company I was working for had charity retreats from time to time and I jumped on the bandwagon. However, I have to admit this go-round was just to get out of work early. Hey, I’m human (what’s that sound?…oh, my Halo hitting the ground.) So, anyway, I had very scant knowledge of the company. But a short orientation, tour of the kitchen and dozens of peeled potatoes later I fell in love with the place. And what my eyes lingered over most–other than the strong green onions that made them water–was the wall tiles that had signatures of stars like Joan Rivers, Heidi Klum and Tim Gunn. It’s common to have celebs participate in charity work, what was weird to me  it wasn’t advertised, promoted or announced like their latest comedy tour or TV show release.

There is nothing wrong with being recognized for doing charity work; who doesn’t want a pat on their back after a job well done? Hell, I dedicated a whole blog to Black celebrities charity and community service endeavors. But, for me I think nothing beats the quiet gratitude you feel within that’s usually not captured when it’s a prearranged photo op. There are a  slew of celebrities that contribute without sounding a trumpet. See and here is another one you probably haven’t heard about. Others may argue that a celeb association can help increase awareness for the charity, produce followers and most importantly sponsors. Duly Noted. But, it could also be a double-edge sword when said charity isn’t that star’s supposed priority. Yes, I’m looking at you Lamar Odom. At this point, I think everyone has heard that Mr. Khloe Kardashian has had the uncommon task of dodging cameras and questions delivered one succinct quote about his charity, Cathy’s Kids after ESPN reported $2.2 million raised for the foundation never went to cancer-related activities, as promised. His response: “It’s my money.”

The Clippers player launched Cathy’s Kids in 2004 in honor of his mother, who died from cancer. Odom describes the foundation as providing “… a positive impact on the lives of underprivileged children and to generate funds for research, care, clinics for cancer, as well as promote education and awareness about cancer–especially for minorities.”

Well, the mentoring part he got down. ESPN’s report shows that of the $2.2 million raised through Cathy’s Kids $1.3 million went to support two youth basketball teams. But…clinics for cancer is where he may have overstretched. Eight years worth of tax records show that not one red cent went to cancer related causes.


Khloe–never one to shy away from the spotlight–stood by her man and released a statement through her Celebuzz blog:

The millions of dollars personally contributed by Lamar constituted more than 90% of the money raised by the foundation. All the funds donated by Lamar and the other contributions to Cathy’s Kids were used for one of the foundation’s intended charitable purposes. Not one penny went to help Lamar personally or any member of his family.

Maybe not a family member. But a close friend. Jerry DeGregorio, who was Odom’s high school basketball coach and best man at his wedding to Khloe, was the only paid executive at the foundation. As secretary of Cathy’s Kids his yearly salary was $72,000. Not bad work if you can get it.

Odom may be in the hot seat this week, but not to long ago–almost a year to be exact– we were wagging our fingers in MJB’s direction. The New York Post revealed the queen of hip hop soul’s charity, Foundation for the Advancement of Women Now (FAWN) meant to empower women and send them to college, was mishandling funds. Despite Mary J Blige touting fragrances and benefit concerts for the foundation, the donated money was nowhere to be found and failed to file tax returns. At the time Mary said she didn’t have the right people in the right places doing the right things.

A problem most stars are faced with. However, what baffles me is why start a charity at all if you’re clueless about running it? In retrospect, I understand we all want to do our part to help others and as a celebrity it will be even more beneficial for those who are in need. But, run improperly, it’s not just those who are  dependent on the charity that suffer, but also that star’s reputation.

Ken Berger, president of Charity Navigator, a watchdog for non-profits, says celebrities have a bigger responsibility than ordinary people in getting it right.

It’s critical that when these kind of opportunities are available that the celebrities involved realize the profound responsibility that they have to try to get as much money to support these worthy causes as they can and to make sure they don’t damage the public trust.

Here, Here!!

If you Bl;nked: It may not be throwback Thursday, but how about we label this one flashback Friday. Below is a 2007 interview with Lil’ Kim on Good Day New York where she talks about her charity Lil Kim Cares. Check the 0:39 mark where she can’t even remember her charity’s event. Smh…

Sources: ESPN, Celebuzz, God’s Love We Deliver, New York Post