The #WhyIStayed Social Activist Creates Escape Aid-‘Bolt Bag’ for Domestic Abuse Survivors


You may not recognize the name. It’s Bev Gooden, btw. But you damn sure remember her setting Twitter ablaze when her hashtag #WhyIStayed went viral in 2014, which nabbed TIME’s Top 10 Hashtags That Started a Conversation.

The Cleveland native is doing more than talking about her experience as a domestic violence survivor. She launched nonprofit org–The Ella Mae Foundation–to advocate for victims of domestic abuse (in honor of late grandmother, who the foundation is named after.)

Starting with ‘The Bolt Bag’ project. It’s exactly what you think it is. A bag full of essentials when you need to…you guessed it…BOLT from someone dangerous.

The Bolt Bag contains toiletries, first aid kits, brush, comb and even more essentials.

IMG_20170426_192401Good hearted folk, like us Blinkers, can donate needed items for the Bolt Bags by reaching out to Bev.

“The time when you leave domestic violence is so, so dangerous, Gooden told NowWhat Her. “And I just wanted to do something tangible, to remove that obstacle.”

“My marriage was abusive and I got out of that marriage.” She adds.

According to the CDC, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

Being in those shoes, Gooden designed Bolt Bag to emphasize anonymity and safety.

“You don’t have to give me your name, or address, or social or phone number. That was the whole idea of the project is anonymity.” the Hampton University grad explains.

NowWhat Her reports hundreds of Bolt Bags have gone out around the world to help all those in need of an escape from a toxic relationship.

To learn more about the Bolt Bag Project click here.

Bev is our #WCW for not only surviving an impossible situation, but giving others the tools to do the same.

Chris Brown Buys a Car for Domestic Violence Victim. Is He Redeemed, Yet?


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I felt some type of way about this story. Don’t get me wrong I salute anyone spreading holiday cheer to those who need it most. These days we need all the good vibes we can get. However, I still had to hit the pause button when I read Chris Brown surprised a domestic violence victim with a new whip.

The “Back to Sleep” singer popped up at the Boys & Girls Club of Hollywood on Saturday to play Santa to Jessica Roncalli and her three kids. Since a Honda can’t fit under a Christmas tree he tossed her the keys then and there. Along with some gifts for the kids. Then recapped his good deed on Instagram. Writing…

I’ve been very fortunate and blessed with so much in my life and I always thought that it was supposed to be that way. I was selfish, arrogant, and cold hearted. I’m able to bless and inspire so many others and I realize that now. This woman has delt with domestic abuse through her life and her 3 wonderful children had to experience that. I see myself when I looked into their eyes. The amount of strength this woman has is remarkable. I hope I could make their Christmas a great one. I hope the kids love all the toys and things I got for them. And for moms. I hope I could put a smile on this family’s face.

Rafael_the_grand had this take in the comment section, “That is so nice that you got her a new car due to her domestic abuse background,you know kinda like when u beat Rhianna. Did you get her an “im sorry honda” aswell????” Well…


Listen, shade aside it’s worth mentioning that a female abuser rewarding a domestic violence victim is kinda weird. On so many levels. It’s like he purposely put a target on his back knowing his checkered past with violence towards women would welcome shots. Yes, I sympathize with Chris Brown being a victim himself given that he watched his own mother be abused by his stepdad. Thus, repeating the cycle of domestic abuse that’s being proven can occur.

Yet, I’m baffled that he would think we have amnesia towards his post-Rihanna despicable acts like stalking ex-girlfriend Karrueche Tran. And treat his good deed like another one to cross off his list.

Chris Brown Gives Away 2,000 Turkeys for Thanksgiving

Or maybe it’s just another coat of paint on his rehab image project since becoming a Daddy to daughter Royalty. Setting a more positive example for her to look up too. After all he has apologized to exes Rihanna and Karrueche for past mistakes.

The question is are we ready to forgive him?

Halle Berry, Pink and Zendaya Saluted for Good Works


A long-haired Halle Berry stepped out in Bev Hills last night rocking a little black dress. Ms. Berry may be flirting with 50, but she still can slay like a 20-year-old ingenue.

Halle received the creative conscious award from Variety magazine’s Unite4Humanity benefit that recognizes charitable endeavors. Halle was spotlighted for her work with the Jenesse Center that caters to victims of domestic violence.

Queen Latifah presented Halle with the honor.


In her acceptance speech, she shared her own experiences with domestic violence. And it hit close to home.

Disney star Zendaya was also awarded with the young Luminary statue. Pop star Demi Levato presented her with the same award she received last year for her anti-bullying campaign.

On Instagram Zendaya wrote, “There’s no age limit to being able to help people…thank you
unite4good I plan on doing so much more.”


Pop singer Pink was also there to bring the crowd to tears with her rendition of “Time After Time.” Check it out below, but first grab a hankie.

Kudos well deserved for their kind acts.